Were there times rationally you know the “right” thing to do, but emotionally you feel like doing something else? Were there times you want it all, so you have a hard time making the final decision? Were there times you have no idea what you are doing and what to do next, so you eagerly seek advice and supports from others? If you say yes to any of the above questions, then let me tell you that you are actually the master of your life, you know what you want/need the most, and you know what’s best for yourself. The problem is whether you believe in yourself, or you believe someone else knows more about you and what’s best for you than you. I’m not telling you to stop learning, seeking information or asking for outside support, but I’m encouraging you to take some time to ask yourself and observe your own thoughts and feelings to see what’s really going on. We often say about gut feelings and six senses, that’s actually what your body and mind are sending signals to you about their reactions on things. Oftentimes it doesn’t make logical sense at the beginning, but at the end it proves you that the sense is right. We are often either not aware of those signals or ignore them because of our beliefs, outside conditions, and circumstance. Practice to be with yourself through reading, meditating, and doing things that make you feel happy and fulfilled. Ask yourself the same questions as the ones you ask others, and then put on your teacher’s hat, parent’s hat, therapist’s hat, or anyone you admire and see what advice you will give yourself. After practicing this technique for a while and play around with it, you will learn much more about yourself, how you work, and enjoy being your own advisor.
Takeaways: You are the expert of your life. You know what’s best for you and what you need/want the most, as long as you trust yourself and your gut feeling. Pay attention to everything that’s going on in you when different situations come up. Ask yourself the same questions that you ask others, and then put on a different hat to give advice to yourself.