health4humanity

We all have both positive and negative experience and memories, correct? Do you know how to use those correctly and effectively? Human brain uses all experience to learn and to protect ourselves, especially when we get hurt, feel painful, or go through many other negative experience emotionally, mentally, physically, and psychologically. It is very common…

这几天有几个童鞋向我咨询到底该如何给对方留下好的印象,如何知道对方适不适合自己。甚至有人觉得用高、冷的手法也可以达到一定的目的与效果。当然,毋庸置疑一些套路是绝对有用的,若没有用大家也就不会去用了。但听过大家的阐述后我是这样认为的。无论用什么手段,技术,手法,那些行为和语言是你自己吗?达到了一时的目的之后能长久的维持吗? 有人说:“有用,且做多了说多了也就成了自己。“ 是的,因为我们的每一次一次的行为都在告诉大脑我们是怎么样的人,我能做什么不能做什么。所以The type of people we are depending on the type of things and deicisons we are making on a daily basis. You are giving your brain constant validation on who you are. 当今社会谁都可以装,谁都有无数个套路可以拿来用,但什么才是最真实最有诚意最能长久保持不变的呢?我觉得正是因为套路太多太多,所以大家的面具与自我防卫心理才会越来越厚重,人心隔的有长城那么远,当初儿时的真、善、美又去了哪里呢?同样的,当第一次见面就拿份考卷来填表格,就算格子全部打钩那就可信了吗?那就适合自己吗?你想要了解认识的是个人而不是一台机器,当目标太明确心太急时其实反而会事倍功半。建议大家调整好心态,重试信心,回归最真实的自己。好好问问自己到底想要什么,在不断了解自己的过程中以人为本的了解对面的那个TA,这样才能”最快最真实“的得到你想要的。 小结:提高自信心,永远不要放弃。做真实的自己,回归真、善、美。

When is the easiest time to find love? I personally think is when we are still in school. Back then we have nothing (no money, job, title, car, girlfriends, boyfriends), so there is nothing to be compared about. We focused more on if that person is a nice person, if we are having a good…